We went to some 16th century (I think) pub in Barston. While we waited for our food - I ordered sardines - and we got into discussion and I was incensed when my companion made excuses for one of his lady friends behavior (her behavior which was in question here was that of one who was rude and intrusive and being possessive) as being a result of the place she was brought up - which he complained , was predominantly black. According to him, her environment as surrounded by a black community which indulged on drugs, on social benefits and generally unemployed has had an impact on her and her unreasonable behavior could be excused on the fact she was a survivor from that kind of background. This woman is a white woman by the way, and he fears that her daughter would end end up as a social misfit as a teenage mum (by having a baby with a black man). He told me that she ended up on the unemployment heap because she likes (his words ' a black cock') I told him I have never heard such nonsense and I cannot believe that he could harbour such ignorance. I cannot believe I was hearing this.
Do I excuse his racism on the fact that he is an Italian? This is just me being sarcastic and facetious- none of my other Italian friends are racist. Or on his age because he is nearly 70 and that would be ageism - being old does not excuse you from being ignorant. Maybe the fact that he left school very early and came to UK to work and never had formal education. Whatever it is, that conversation sickened me and I lost my apetite. Is there some way I can change his attitute? Or is it prevalent?
No. That conversation spoilt the whole afternoon for me.